single life

The Truth About Being Single

So if your Valentine’s Day didn’t really go as expected or you’re still single and fabulous – you’ll totally relate to this short clip. #foreveralone. LOL


Waiting All Night – Rudimental

Waiting All Night? I hope not, but maybe something special might happen on Valentine’s Day. Hrmm

Well anything can happen any day! ANYWAY – in the mean time, while we are waiting for that to happen, stay single and fabulous.

I love this track from Rudimental’s Album HOME, which is taking me into the weekend. The official video clip was a bit hard to watch at first, but I like it. Mates are everything.

Date the Girl who Travels

As a single female who loves travel, I am in total support of this new article published by who responds to the negative aspects of female travelers.

I love this quote…

“Travel is the only thing you can buy that makes you richer.”

For those who want to explore and have a curious mind, travel is exciting and full of adventure. Getting off the beaten track opens your mind to so many different and new experiences, people, cultures, and food. Sometimes getting lost have letting the unexpected happen can be one of the best experiences of your life.


Not all experiences when traveling overseas are positive ones. You’re going to get exhausted and be sleep deprived from transits and jet lag. You’ll get ripped off in countries where you don’t understand the language and also buy more souvenirs than you really need.

However without the experiences you can write off with your ‘Oh well, I’m a tourist, shit happens’ card as an excuse you wouldn’t have all those other stories to tell.

Also, not all people are welcoming to foreigners and you might see one of the signs below whilst visiting a different country.  You’ve been warned now.


Anyway, at the end of the day it all comes down to how we deal with the situation. We’re all going to have good and bad days. To travel well I think you’ve got to be flexible and sometimes open minded about things that happen along the way.

I’m going to slowly continue to update my Travel Adventures section of my blog with destinations I have visited. There’s a few to really catch up on!


There’s a link below to all the other photos Murad Osmann has taken with his girlfriend, Russian Journalist Natalia Zakharova!. Gorgeous!!!

Feature image source: Photographer Murad Osmann

In the Jungle

Down the rabbit hole. Welcome to the world of singledom.

I’ve been single for a little while now and it’s definitely been an interesting experience. I suppose for quite some time now that I’ve been working on just being happy with who I am and let everything else around me…just happen.


Single life is definitely fun, but it does get exhausting as well. My friend who has been single for a little long than me has told me two things about single life.

1. It’s a Jungle out there.
There are so many different types of people to meet. I love meeting people and I’d like to think I have a pretty good judgement of character. So you start to learn how to weed out the potentials and non-potentials. There are an occasional few that slip past the crazy filter.

2. It’s a numbers game
You just got to keep trying. There are may fails. In fact for me personally, I don’t think any guy has lasted more than 1 or 2 weeks max. It’s a bit sad, but it’s the reality of dating and being single. You’re not going to get a long with everyone and I feel like I also don’t want to keep wasting my time (or their time) on something that doesn’t really have future potential.

Personally I don’t think there’s any hard and fast rules to dating. Everyone is at different stages in their life and only ready to be able to commit so much to a ‘relationship’.


My advice as always is to play safe, especially if you’re all over Tinder 😉
Don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t work out for you. Plenty of fish in the sea (as cliche as that sounds)

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Also be realistic, it’s not always going to be smooth sailing or easy. Rejection is a sucky thing, but it’s all about how you deal with it that says a lot about yourself and your character. Try to stay positive ^_^ !! Making sure you have the right support from good friends you can trust I think is also really important.

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Plus – Stay Classy. AND HAVE FUN!!! xoxo



Hello! It has been one whole month since I last updated this blog. I made my way to Singapore, across China and have now returned home to Melbourne, Australia via Singapore. My bank account is now a lot poorer, but have come back richer in experiences. (This is really the least of my problems!)


It has been one epic journey with so many stories to tell. I contemplated beginning my story at the end, just because all my memories are so much fresher towards the end of the journey. I didn’t get much of a chance to journal or keep notes on my tablet, just because I spent most of my energy concentrating on getting from point A to point B and resting as much as I could in between.

It was definitely a good break from social media. However to be completely honest, it wasn’t a clean break. I purchased a prepaid sim card with data at the start of the trip, so I could still Instagram 😀 The main reason for this was that my family wanted to keep in touch with me throughout the journey, as I was traveling solo and did not have any friends with me on this trip. It was great making new friends!

Facebook and Twitter were the two social media platforms that were completely blocked. However if you had a VPN (virtual private network) you could get around “China Big Brother” and get some juicy updates on what exactly has been going on in the outside world.

So I’ve decided that I should start the journey from the start. Here’s a quick run down of my travel, arriving in Singapore for my Cousin’s Wedding, which was such a beautiful occasion and memorable experience.

My ‘solo’ tour travel tour with Gadventures then started soon after in Beijing, where we visited The Great Wall of China followed by free time for a couple of days, which I spent with my Cousin and the Art District 798 because I loved it so much. I also had my wallet stolen on Day 3, which was a great inconvenience. However I wasn’t too worried as I discovered my wallet was missing soon after it happened and was able to cancel my credit card right away.

It was then some epic 16 hour train ride to Shanghai. Riding on the slow sleeper trains for the first time was such a crazy experience. However we were really over sleeper trains by the end of the trip. Shanghai at least had a decent hotel and we didn’t have that much time to spend here. We just admired the unique city skyline, which includes the famous Bund Tower and went out for a night clubbing.

Next Stop – Xi’An. One of the most beautiful cities I have been to in China. Here I visited the Terracotta Warriors, the famous Bell and Drum towers and the Great Goose Pagoda. I also managed to make friends with some locals who took me out for a night at one of the popular clubs in Xi’an called Muse. Epic time. I loved Xi’An.

Xi’an also has a well established Muslim community. We happened to be in town for the Muslim festival called Eid Al-Fitr. I visited Muslim quarter on the day of Eid Al-Fitr and was confronted by the slaughtering of Cows and Goats Halal style to celebrate the end of Ramadan. This was one eye opening experience!

After Xi’an came the Three Gorges River Cruise. We had a terrible journey getting to the boat, which included a coach ride with another Chinese tour group. The good thing was we got to stop in Chong Qing – Hotpot capital, which was great for food experiences.

Onto Yang Shuo, which is a town near by to Guilin. By this point, I was coming down with a case of viral gastro. I was also really poor and out of funds. I made an emergency withdrawal of 1000 yuan, which was just enough to see me through to the end of Mainland China. If there’s anywhere you want to be sick, it would be in Yang Shuo. It’s a beautiful city in China.

After Yang Shuo, we spent 18 hours on the train to get ourselves into Hong Kong. The feeling of civilized people was most welcomed. People don’t push you, they line up, the city is clean and kids don’t shit in the street, people don’t spit everywhere. FREEDOM.

Hong Kong was full of adventure, including getting kicked out of a Pub Crawl, meeting awesome people at the Yes Inn Causeway Bay, partying down in Central and Wan Chai and a beautiful day trip to Lamma Island for some beach action.

From Hong Kong, I traveled to Singapore and ended up spending one extra night there due to mechanical problems with the aircraft. This was one of the best things that could have happened, as I was already running late for my flight (or so I thought because I never received the updates about the cancellation)

In the end I was put up for the night in the Riverview Hotel with buffet Dinner, Breakfast and Lunch included. It was so good to relax because by this time I had come down with a very bad Flu. I also went shopping crazy and was seriously overweight. However Jetstar was able to check in excess luggage and provide meals and entertainment for my flight home for no extra costs. Jetstar, you rock!

So, that’s the summary. More updates to come! Stay tuned. Have a great weekend everyone! 4am – I’m ready for bed!!!
Lil xx

I am Alone

It’s not a bad thing that I am alone. I like being alone sometimes. It gives me time and space to think, to be selfish and enjoy the time to myself.

In real person, my friends would describe me as ‘out of control’, out-going, funny, smart-ass, troll. Being too honest can sometimes come across as being insensitive to people’s feelings.


I am enjoying a Saturday night at home, listening to music on my iPod, flicking through ‘Banksy Wall and Piece’ and reading inspirational quotes.  I find it uplifting and positive at a time that I need to remove myself from any negativity.

I found a piece in Banksy that reminded of my past relationship. It’s not easy and I know things like this will come up. However it’s all about how I deal with it in the present moment that is important.

I get needy for attention to try forget it, but on a Saturday night when everyone is doing their own thing – I find myself alone with me myself and I to deal with my own problems.

I jumped online to find a source of inspiration, quotes and things and found the feeling of loneliness begin to fade as I fill myself with the positives of being alone. I particularly like the quote about Vodka!

I have an inspirational quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson that is framed up nicely in an IKEA picture frame. I really love it.


So life goes on. You can choose to be miserable about how sh!t everything is has been in the past and all the crap you have been through – or you can choose to surround yourself with happy thoughts, good friend and good experiences. Try all those things you always wanted to do. You are FREE.

I am thankful everyday for the friends and family I have in my life who love me for who I am.

Lil xx

Single Moments

It hasn’t really been that easy to get to the ‘happy being single’ stage in life. If I look back to when I first started this blog, there was a lot of hurt, pain and sadness for the loss of a long-term relationship. There were many feelings of being depressed, having low-self esteem and I had very little confidence.

For a little while I tried to focus on the brighter side of life. I focused on appreciating the little things in life and tried to enjoy every opportunity that came along. However I lost motivation, direction and because I lacked self confidence, I told myself lies that brought myself down. I was convinced that life would never be the same again and I decided I just didn’t want to participate anymore.

However after being lost for a little while and with the support of my wonderful friends and family, I found new hope in the single life. I slowly learned to trust again and to approach life with an open mind and heart. I now look forward to living, learning and loving myself again. One thing I have learned from this, is never stop enjoying the things you love doing. Keep pushing yourself to get out there, even if you don’t really feel comfortable doing it.


It’s taken me a little while to get this post up. Usually the words and thoughts just flow from my mind to the keyboard. However, until now I struggled with where I was going with this post.

I spent the weekend away down at the Mornington Peninsula with old and new friends, enjoying the fabulous weather and fantastic coffee and food. Fun times!

Now I look forward to another week of focusing on the things that I want to do in life and what makes me happy 🙂 Sometimes, I just have to take it one day at a time.

I hope you all enjoyed the weekend and are also looking forward to whatever might come up next.

Lil xx