relationships

I Love Valentine’s Day

I love Valentine’s Day because makes people say and do funny things. There are the lovers, the haters and the ones who just simply don’t care about Valentine’s Day.

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I fit into the ‘I don’t care’ category…It’s just another day of the year.
Besides – It’s not easy being a single female in Australia when we are currently experiencing a MAN DROUGHT!!!

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If I took that article seriously, looks like I need to update my settings to younger men on my Tinder account, move to Perth or pack my bags and head to the Maldives.

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I’ll confess that I actually use to buy Valentines day cards, however they always ended up in tears when the card was torn up in front of my face.

I must not have understood the concept of Valentine’s day and now I’ve just given up. *SIGH* LOL

Oh Ralph! I love that classic Simpsons episode.
And…to say that I love anybody more than my smart phone…well LOVE is a strong word! 😛

So…this is what I do now when I walk through the ‘Valentines Day’ section at the shops.vday17

Here’s some of my favorite dysfunctional and hilarious views on Valentine’s Day from a single persons point of view

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And for those who are so in LOVE and insist on splashing out on Valentine’s Day, please have some self control! HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY! xoxo

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Solutions

I think about depression this way. It’s very simple.

Depression was the solution to not killing myself. I am still holding on.

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What is the solution to Depression?

The true answer is – this question is much harder to answer.

But all these things help:

  • Time
  • Understanding
  • Empathy
  • Patience
  • Flexibility
  • Unconditional love
  • Reassurance

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I hope you might be able to help someone who cannot help themselves in their current state of mind.

There is a lot of reward in giving without expecting any back in return.

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Good Looking Loser – Meiko

I Love Meiko 🙂 Fantastic singer and artist.

Look what you’ve done
Look what you have become
You’re a puppet, a fool, and a thief
With my eyes closed
‘Cause that’s how it goes
Everyone knew it but me

You’re a good looking loser
And I’m the one who got away

With my eyes full of tears
And my hands with two beers
I’m as sorry as I am ashamed
Should have been smarter
Should have tried harder
Should have been quick to your game

You’re a good looking loser
And I’m the one who got away
Nobody said it’d be different this time
Maybe you’re all the same

And I had my doubts
But I threw them all out
I had faith
That there would be no price to pay

You’re a good looking loser
And I’m the one who got away

Yeah I’m the one, I’m the one, I’m the one, I’m the one who got away
I’m the one, I’m the one, I’m the one, I’m the one who got away
Yeah I’m the one, I’m the one, I’m the one, I’m the one who got away

You’re a good looking loser
And I will do what I have to do

In the Jungle

Down the rabbit hole. Welcome to the world of singledom.

I’ve been single for a little while now and it’s definitely been an interesting experience. I suppose for quite some time now that I’ve been working on just being happy with who I am and let everything else around me…just happen.

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Single life is definitely fun, but it does get exhausting as well. My friend who has been single for a little long than me has told me two things about single life.

1. It’s a Jungle out there.
There are so many different types of people to meet. I love meeting people and I’d like to think I have a pretty good judgement of character. So you start to learn how to weed out the potentials and non-potentials. There are an occasional few that slip past the crazy filter.

2. It’s a numbers game
You just got to keep trying. There are may fails. In fact for me personally, I don’t think any guy has lasted more than 1 or 2 weeks max. It’s a bit sad, but it’s the reality of dating and being single. You’re not going to get a long with everyone and I feel like I also don’t want to keep wasting my time (or their time) on something that doesn’t really have future potential.

Personally I don’t think there’s any hard and fast rules to dating. Everyone is at different stages in their life and only ready to be able to commit so much to a ‘relationship’.

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My advice as always is to play safe, especially if you’re all over Tinder 😉
Don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t work out for you. Plenty of fish in the sea (as cliche as that sounds)

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Also be realistic, it’s not always going to be smooth sailing or easy. Rejection is a sucky thing, but it’s all about how you deal with it that says a lot about yourself and your character. Try to stay positive ^_^ !! Making sure you have the right support from good friends you can trust I think is also really important.

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Plus – Stay Classy. AND HAVE FUN!!! xoxo

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You’ll never understand…

Depression, unless you’ve experienced it yourself.

I spent about one year in a depression and it was my friends and family that helped me get out of a state of depression, however it was myself that needed to do the most work. To stop telling myself lies.

Depression is different for everyone. For me, I chose not to live, not to feel and not to engage in everyday life. I would do the bare minimum to function as a human, for the sake of my family and friends.

I slept a lot.
I stopped listening to music.
I stopped eating regularly
I didn’t return calls or texts
I didn’t exercise
I just didn’t care anymore.

I spent my day daydreaming about nothing.
I spent some days thinking of ways I would die.
How could I kill myself in the most painless way possible?
Sometimes I cried, but rarely.

I became selfish.
I hated myself for everything
I hated the way I thought
I held onto the guilt of not being the person I wanted to be
I hated myself some more.

I stopped posting on Facebook.
I stopped blogging.
I never took photos.
I never tweeted a word.

Coming out of depression was a big thing for me. The worst of it is behind me, but every now and again I falter. When I falter I reach out to my friends, the ones I know I am safe with. The ones who will look after me and care for me, no matter what happens.

These are the friends who keep me in the world today.

I learned just recently, that I’m not the only one who went through depression. My family went through it as well. When you go through depression, you forget that others are hurting too.

They need their space to heal too.

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Jealousy

Jealousy keeps us on our toes and once it’s invited into our hearts, it can turn a beautiful person into a very ugly person very quickly.

We all compare ourselves to other people and make judgements based on our beliefs and feelings. I don’t believe jealousy is necessarily a negative feeling, it is how you deal with the situation when the feelings arise.

A good dose of jealousy is good for the relationship, it shows that you have a passion and love for something you deeply care about, which is a sweet thing. Expressing your love for someone because you might feel slightly jealous is a delicate communication process.

It’s dangerous when a person starts turning possessive and stops the person they love from doing what they want to do by imposing unreasonable restrictions. Love for another person is definitely not about being possessive. It is about loving them for who they are.

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I know that personally when I start to feel jealous, I recognize that it would ugly to indulge the thought of ‘hating’ on someone for nothing they have done personally to me.

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Making assumptions always lurks in the dark corners of our heart and mind. We just need to know how to control it. Keep in mind, nobody is perfect and sometimes we make mistakes. As long as we learn from them, any experience we have good or bad, it’s always something worthwhile and we should no ever have to regret it.

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Mr Man – Alicia Keys ft Jimmy Cozier

“Mr. Man”
(feat. Jimmy Cozier)

[Jimmy Cozier]
Somethin’ about the way you smiled at me juss drove me wild
Wish I could know if your alone, don’t wanna cramp your style
But I cannot deny the feel that I feel when I look straight into your eyes
Feel my heart beating fast for a challenge may arise

I wanna know if you feel the way I do (I do)
I wanna know if theres a chance for me and you (and you)
If theres no way, meet at the bar and you say can’t (you can’t)
Cuz I don’t wanna be, I don’t wanna be. I don’t wanna be
Unfair to Mr. Man, unfair to Mr. Man,
Unfair to Mr. Man, unfair to Mr. Man, unfair

[Verse 2:]
[Alicia Keys]
Like the way you’ve given me attention through the nite
Maybe I’ve had too much remy, my man’s right by my side
Everytime I catch you watchin’ me I feel somethin’ down my spine
I’ll play the game, it’s just for fun and only for tonite

I wanna know what makes you feel the way you do (you do)
I think you hopin’ theres a chance for me and you (and you)
Should I meet you at the bar and say we can’t? (we can’t)
Cause i don’t wanna be, i don’t wanna be, i don’t wanna be
Unfair to Mr. Man, unfair to Mr. Man,
Unfair to Mr. Man, unfair to Mr. Man, unfair to Mr. Man

[Bridge:]
[Alicia]
I know all you wanna know is answers
[Jimmy]
Cuz you could give me what I need
[Alicia]
We both know that we’re attracted
Should we let our desires lead?

I wanna know if you feel the way I do (I do)
I wanna know if theres a chance for me and you (and you)
Cuz I don’t wanna be, I don’t wanna be. I don’t wanna be
Unfair to Mr. Man, unfair to Mr. Man,
Unfair to Mr. Man, unfair to Mr. Man, unfair

I wanna know what makes you feel the way you do (you do)
I think you hopin’ theres a chance for me and you (and you)
Should I meet you at the bar and say we can’t? (we can’t)
Unfair to Mr. Man, unfair to Mr. Man,
Unfair to Mr. Man, unfair to Mr. Man, unfair to Mr. Man